Design in the Desert

One of our favorite new floral trends this wedding season comes in the unlikely form of Cortaderia selloana, commonly known as Pampas grass.

Pampas grass is an earth-tone floral piece that couple’s are using this year to elevate their design, with a desire to move away from the traditional eucalyptus and branch-style foliage we are used to seeing..


While Pampas grass has made its way onto the invasive weed list in two American states (due to its ability to completely take over an area) and is even banned in some countries, it is proving to be popular with couples and florists in a multitude of ways. With its voluminous appearance and dramatic effect it can really make an impactful statement without using a lot of it.

Instead of the traditional and tried floral arrangements, envision a striking and beautiful aisle layout that has a more dazzling alternative to the customary ceremony set-up.

Pampas grass certainly adds a luxury feel with a modern twist. Its body is bold, but also soft and romantic. It creates a light and airy feel, and when paired with pretty in pink blush tones, or even deep maroon florals…Just imagine how swoon-worthy that could be.


Now, you ask how do we see pampas grass being used? When looking for the perfect way to showcase its beauty and elegance we came across a Palm Springs editorial that truly captured its charm and grace by Stylish Details.



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Photography: Pura Soul Photography / Cinema: Emma Lynn Cinema / Venue: The Pond Estate in Palm Springs, CA / Styling & Planning: Stylish Details / Floral Design: Little Hill Floral Designs / Hair & Makeup: Kohnur Premier Bridal Beauty / Paper Goods: Eclaire Paperie / Rentals & Tabletop: Archive Rentals / Gowns: Mon Amie Bridal Salon / Models: Carissa Roo & Christopher Schindler / PR & Marketing: Rayce PR

Winter Wedding in Portland, Oregon

Why more couple’s don’t ponder the idea of a winter wedding in the Pacific Northwest still remains a mystery to me. Although the sun may set earlier than the long summer days, the brisk air, warm tones and cozy nights are truly some of my favorite.

As we fill our calendars with holiday gatherings, one of the greatest gifts is to celebrate love in an already joyful time of year and Natasha and Albert did just that.

December 8th greeted us with a cold morning, but bright blue skies at The Porter Portland, where Natasha spent her day surrounded by loved ones and her glam team, Makeup by Whit. I was fortunate enough to spend some time with Natasha that morning as installations were happening at The Evergreen. It was one of my most cherished mornings with a client, turned friend: we chatted, we laughed, we ate, we drank (coffee), and had this moment where we took a deep breath because for me it would soon be over, and for Natasha, it was just the beginning. The beginning of her new chapter with Albert, and the end of a planning era for us, which always leaves a mark.

I stood with an anxious groom behind closed doors as we talked about how beautiful Natasha looked, while she fluffed her bouquet (Brier & Ivy) and tucked her hair behind her ear one last time before their first look, perfectly captured by Olivia Strohm and SLF Weddings. Draped in a beautiful shawl, they were all smiles as they held each other tight with cool temperatures.

Taking a less traditional approach to their reception, after a beautiful ceremony, a curated spread of breakfast favorites made their way to the custom menu provided by Chefstable. Guests enjoyed an amazing experience, set with beautiful lounge areas, guest seating and a dance floor you didn’t want to miss, illuminated with their monogram, designed by Briar & Brambles Paper Co.

Cheers to Natasha and Albert as they not only celebrate the beginning of their marriage but to their new adventure in Chicago! You will be missed!



Bazaar Bride Commandments

Our recent subscription of Bazaar Bride has us swooning over the most couture wedding gowns, bridal jewelry and honeymoon locations. In our welcome email, we received their “10 Commandments” for planning a wedding and we could not AGREE MORE! We actually agree some much we felt like we just had to share them with you here.


There are 3 commandments from this list of 10 though that we seriously live by!

#1. Throw out the Rule Book.

Nothing is interesting about the wedding all your friends have had. So rid yourself of the “should/should nots” and plan YOUR dream wedding. It may be something as simple as omitting a ceremony program, or as big as throwing a cocktail style reception instead of a sit down dinner!

#4. Trust Your Vendors.


I know it can be hard to let go of control. We have many clients that are powerhouses in their careers. They seriously kickass. It can be hard to allow someone else space to shine, but when you do, beautiful things happen. As planners, we never claim to know more than our expert vendors who are seriously the best in the field. They teach us so much daily, from what flowers wilt faster than others to what fish has a better fat content to keep moist longer. And remember, as a planner, that’s our job to be triple checking these details on your behalf as well!

#8. Plan a Fabulous Party or Long Weekend, Not a Wedding!

When you throwout the rules, trust your team and start planning an epic party or weekend getaway for your friends, thats when an unforgettable event takes place. That means food and beverage matter, entertainment is key and your guests experience is never put aside.

Don’t forget to join Bazaar Bride to stay current on all things luxury weddings!


*All photography from and not the rights of Vanity Affair Events.

Parker Palm Springs

One of the most cherished things about being a Wedding Planner is that it weaves people in and out of your life in so many different capacities. Like a breath of fresh air, reconnecting with people from your childhood to be asked to plan on of the most special times in their lives is what makes long weekends, late nights and caffeine addictions, worth every second of lost sleep.

Lucky for me, one of my dearest friends asked me to be her Wedding Planner and to say it is a memory I hold close to me would be an understatement. It’s almost as though this nostalgic feeling of wanting to pause these moments in time because you immediately have flashbacks of experiences you went through together (heartbreak, being single, falling in and out of love, traveling) when it was just us. Being silly and weird (OK, we’re definitely still both of those), with minimal responsibilities to now have a partner, children, and the start to a new chapter, there definitely comes feelings of loss, yet the reality is actually a gain. I gained her husband as a friend and her stepchildren as people I will be there for whenever I can or am needed.

Lauren and Billy wed at one of the most iconic destinations in Palm Springs; The Parker. Filled with it’s perfectly curated mid-century modern inspired interiors, their wedding weekend was nothing short of a true tribute to a great party in the desert.

Unexpectedly due to family health concerns, we were given two months (yes, two) to plan, design and execute their destination wedding and from beginning to end, the adrenaline is indescribable.

Beautifully captured by Callaway Gable, Lauren’s chic, old Hollywood style look paired with Billy’s perfectly tailored custom suit in a vibrant blue radiated everything Palm Springs encompasses: color! With tropical floral designs by Modern Bouquet and cafe lighting over a checkered dance floor by Signature Party, it was a night to remember and it didn’t just end on that dance floor.

The after party, hosted at Gene Autry House went well into the early morning hours and it was a February in the desert we will never forget!



Happy New Year from Vanity Affair Events

It’s hard to believe January is almost beneath us and we welcomed 2019 just a few short weeks ago.

The holidays are always a whirlwind, and when you include a wedding among that mix, they fly even quicker than you can imagine (can't wait to share our December wedding with you, though!)

My name is Kelsey Timberlake and I am the woman behind Vanity Affair Events. Thank you for being here and supporting this little glimpse into my day to day that includes weddings, two pups I adore, a boyfriend I love and everything in between. It can get a little messy around here and I hope you find humor in who I am, what I do and the authenticity behind my work.

I am entering my 5th full wedding season as a boutique company specializing in luxury intimate events. As you may have gathered, my time is split between my Native Portland roots and Palm Springs, California, both of which are my happy places and where my offices reside.

I am so anxious to share what we’re creating this year. 2018 was by far one of my most cherished seasons and I am humbled to have been on this journey with 24 couples.

Cheers to a new year. To a fresh start. And to the newly engaged. Can't wait to create together!




Luxury Jewish Wedding in Portland, OR

When I first met with Giulia and Ryan for their September wedding at Exchange Ballroom, a couple of things became very apparent: food and service were of utmost importance to them. As Giulia’s Father works in the restaurant industry in New York, their guests were accustomed to a level of quality, presentation and caliber of service that was unmatched.


To ensure not a single detail fell short, it was essential that multiple menu tastings were had. Tastings happen to be one my absolute favorite aspects of wedding planning, so of course, we were happy to oblige. We worked closely with Vibrant Table to create a beautiful custom menu of seasonal items while highlighting North West cuisine, as most guests were traveling from around tall over the world to be here in Portland with us. We were able to narrow down our surf and turf entree selection to roasted wild salmon with smoked sea salt, grilled fennel, spicy pickled figs with herbed polenta cakes and seasonal vegetables, along with grilled filet mignon, pinot noir demi glaze, blue cheese mashed potatoes, tarragon butter baby carrots, and fried sage leaves. Guests were elated with rave reviews to the chef over the menu. Wines from the Willamette Valley were served tableside.

The menu was not the only aspect of their wedding that was elevated to give guests a true restaurant quality dining experience; we increased the number of servers to make sure tables were well serviced, rented all specialty serving ware, including a glass charger and blue velvet linen napkins from La Tavola. As guests dined by candlelight, the live band playing classic hits to add to the undeniable ambiance.

Thankful for the opportunity to collaborate with clients to allow us at Vanity Affair Events bring these ideas to fruition.




Love Wins.

Having the opportunity to work with people all over the world is something I will never take for granted. It’s connected me with so many amazing people who have taught me many lessons along the way, and George and Tim are two people who I am so thankful our paths crossed.

When I met George and Tim the only common thread between the two of them when wedding plans were discussed was that they both agreed it was Palm Springs or Bust! Aside from that, they had different interpretations of what their celebration looked like and that’s truly what made planning their weekend in Palm Springs so special.

So often people think you have to have the same ideas as your partner when you picture your wedding day and believe it or not, you don’t. Some aspects of the planning process may be more important to you than others, and being a good listener while also voicing your opinion is what makes the planning process so rewarding in the end. A glass of wine or two along the way doesn’t hurt, either!

Their weekend was all about celebrating those who surround them. A guest list of nearly 150 people and the amount of love that filled Frank Sinatra’s Twin Palms Estate is indescribable. With their cake table draped in a handwoven linen from George’s mother who passed too early, to all guest’s placing a hand on one another during their ceremony to spread love and positive energy, to the grand entrance welcoming loved ones with a step a repeat, this is a wedding you didn’t want to miss.

It’s ok to be on different paths throughout the wedding planning process if you know your destination is the same. It’s how we get there that makes it worthwhile.

Love wins,


Should You Stay or Should You Go?

Is it just me or does fall illicit the travel bug? Summer has come to a close, the coziness of cooler months sets in and long nights on the couch, lend to many hours searching flights and hotels. Lucky for me, Vanity Affair Events keeps me busy scouting destination wedding venues all over the world and often leaves me wondering, why didn’t I tie the knot abroad?

It’s no surprise that destination weddings are on the rise and for good reason, we are a generation of adventure seekers. But the ultimate question always comes, should I or shouldn’t I and how do you begin the process of planning an out of state, across country or even around the world wedding? The endless possibilities can be both exciting and also completely overwhelming. So if a destination wedding is something you have been dreaming about, here are a few things to consider while taking the leap into the unknown.


Can you accept guests not attending your destination wedding?
If the answer is no, you would be devastated at the thought of some of your closest friends or family not attending, then you will likely want to stick to a local wedding. When hosting out of town, you have to be ok with the fact that some guests are just not going to be able to make it. You can’t fault these guests - as they have to make a decision that right for them and even if they love you dearly, that may mean missing your big day. For many, creating a more intimate affair is what they are after and for those, a destination is perfect!

How Far is Too Far?
This depends on how small you want your wedding and what is financially doable for the people closest to you. For some families this will mean Italy and for others a resort a few hours from their hometown. Take a survey of your non-negotiable guests and if they are willing and excited to travel with you for this journey- then get to booking!

Summer, Fall, Winter, or Spring
Consider the time of year for your guests. To me the most ideal time to travel is in the winter and spring. The spring ache’s for vacations and thus your guests will be more excited to get out of dodge! Summers are filled with personal commitments, the weather at home is already warm, and the fall is cozy and people have already long spent their tax returns. To me the most ideal time for a destination wedding is February thru April.

What is the appropriate amount of time to notify your guest’s of your destination wedding in order to plan accordingly?
Give your guests no less than 6 months to plan a trip to your wedding. This may seem short, but over at Vanity Affair Events, our sweet spot for planning is truly around 9 months, so notifying guests at the 6 month mark is totally fair. However, if you are hosting a summer wedding or international destination than a year is necessary.


When in Rome

I woke up this morning and was greeted with a memory on Facebook to exactly three years ago to the day when I was standing outside the Colosseum in Rome, Italy. It was in that moment as I laid in bed that I realized how fast time really does pass and it inspired me to take some time and walk down memory lane to a trip I will never forget.

This trip to Europe was decided two weeks before I departed. Colleen and Lisa were working overseas and a lighthearted conversation later, I booked my ticket during a two week window I didn’t have any weddings and off I went. As I sit here writing this, I want to bring to light that although I am a Planner by day, some of the most amazing experiences that have happened in my life are the ones unplanned. I crave the unexpected. The unfamiliarity.

Our trip truly could have been a movie. Three single women, overseas and you took one look at us and you really knew we were embracing the saying ‘the world is your oyster.’ We enjoyed picnics at every historical site imaginable, stopped for wine every 2-3 hours as it seemed like the way of life and hopped on a private chartered wood sailboat to experience the Blue Lagoon off the island of Capri and it was unlike anything I could have ever imagined.

As our boat docked back on Positano, three young gentleman who were helping guest’s off, approached us to show us what Positano was all about. Let me make one thing clear: we knew we were not the first women to be graced with their presence off the boat, but they offered to pick us up that evening (by scooter!) and show us their home. As many of you may have guessed, I was sold before he could finish the sentence.

And just like Kristen Bell in When in Rome, we were whisked off our feet at 10PM sharp by three young men on scooters and we danced, laughed and cruised the streets of Positano until early in the morning, when we’d make our sneaky escape (from our own AirBNB, get your minds out of the gutter!) to head back to the states.

Cheers to more adventure. To the unexpected. And to friends who are right alongside you every step of the way.