Should You Stay or Should You Go?

Is it just me or does fall illicit the travel bug? Summer has come to a close, the coziness of cooler months sets in and long nights on the couch, lend to many hours searching flights and hotels. Lucky for me, Vanity Affair Events keeps me busy scouting destination wedding venues all over the world and often leaves me wondering, why didn’t I tie the knot abroad?

It’s no surprise that destination weddings are on the rise and for good reason, we are a generation of adventure seekers. But the ultimate question always comes, should I or shouldn’t I and how do you begin the process of planning an out of state, across country or even around the world wedding? The endless possibilities can be both exciting and also completely overwhelming. So if a destination wedding is something you have been dreaming about, here are a few things to consider while taking the leap into the unknown.


Can you accept guests not attending your destination wedding?
If the answer is no, you would be devastated at the thought of some of your closest friends or family not attending, then you will likely want to stick to a local wedding. When hosting out of town, you have to be ok with the fact that some guests are just not going to be able to make it. You can’t fault these guests - as they have to make a decision that right for them and even if they love you dearly, that may mean missing your big day. For many, creating a more intimate affair is what they are after and for those, a destination is perfect!

How Far is Too Far?
This depends on how small you want your wedding and what is financially doable for the people closest to you. For some families this will mean Italy and for others a resort a few hours from their hometown. Take a survey of your non-negotiable guests and if they are willing and excited to travel with you for this journey- then get to booking!

Summer, Fall, Winter, or Spring
Consider the time of year for your guests. To me the most ideal time to travel is in the winter and spring. The spring ache’s for vacations and thus your guests will be more excited to get out of dodge! Summers are filled with personal commitments, the weather at home is already warm, and the fall is cozy and people have already long spent their tax returns. To me the most ideal time for a destination wedding is February thru April.

What is the appropriate amount of time to notify your guest’s of your destination wedding in order to plan accordingly?
Give your guests no less than 6 months to plan a trip to your wedding. This may seem short, but over at Vanity Affair Events, our sweet spot for planning is truly around 9 months, so notifying guests at the 6 month mark is totally fair. However, if you are hosting a summer wedding or international destination than a year is necessary.


When in Rome

I woke up this morning and was greeted with a memory on Facebook to exactly three years ago to the day when I was standing outside the Colosseum in Rome, Italy. It was in that moment as I laid in bed that I realized how fast time really does pass and it inspired me to take some time and walk down memory lane to a trip I will never forget.

This trip to Europe was decided two weeks before I departed. Colleen and Lisa were working overseas and a lighthearted conversation later, I booked my ticket during a two week window I didn’t have any weddings and off I went. As I sit here writing this, I want to bring to light that although I am a Planner by day, some of the most amazing experiences that have happened in my life are the ones unplanned. I crave the unexpected. The unfamiliarity.

Our trip truly could have been a movie. Three single women, overseas and you took one look at us and you really knew we were embracing the saying ‘the world is your oyster.’ We enjoyed picnics at every historical site imaginable, stopped for wine every 2-3 hours as it seemed like the way of life and hopped on a private chartered wood sailboat to experience the Blue Lagoon off the island of Capri and it was unlike anything I could have ever imagined.

As our boat docked back on Positano, three young gentleman who were helping guest’s off, approached us to show us what Positano was all about. Let me make one thing clear: we knew we were not the first women to be graced with their presence off the boat, but they offered to pick us up that evening (by scooter!) and show us their home. As many of you may have guessed, I was sold before he could finish the sentence.

And just like Kristen Bell in When in Rome, we were whisked off our feet at 10PM sharp by three young men on scooters and we danced, laughed and cruised the streets of Positano until early in the morning, when we’d make our sneaky escape (from our own AirBNB, get your minds out of the gutter!) to head back to the states.

Cheers to more adventure. To the unexpected. And to friends who are right alongside you every step of the way.



Waverley Country Club, Portland, Oregon

Distance may make the heart grow fonder and in this case it absolutely did, but music was the real common denominator for Sarah and Geoff's beginning. 

It was an Avicii concert in Los Angeles, both entered as strangers and left not knowing one day they would marry, but they knew they left with something more than a great show. 

Sarah and Geoff decided to marry in Portland, Oregon where Geoff was born and raised. They love the city, the concept of a destination wedding for Sarah's family and friends having grown up in Texas and wanted to give guest's a taste of why the Pacific Northwest is now home for them. With Oregon known for their great outdoors, they wanted to showcase as much of that as possible as their backdrop, landing on Waverley Country Club, Portland's 100 year old private club that sits on the Willamette River. 

Their July wedding was nothing short of stunning, but every aspect of it was intentional, making this day more special than they could have imagined. From the custom embroidered napkins, to butler passed frose' in cocktail hour to the floral draped escort wall and cold cloths on arrival for a warm summer day, it was an experience that provided class, comfort and formality, which was the couple's goal throughout the entire planning process. 

Sarah and Geoff danced the night away, their first dance song by Avicii paying tribute to the night they met, filled with glow sticks, custom denim jackets, late night snacks and a colored smoke bomb grand exit. It was a day filled with love, laughter and the start to their next chapter as The Nichols!



Photography by Valorie Darling

Tuscany Inspired Styled Shoot

You are probably thinking how crazy we are for scheduling and designing a shoot in the thick of wedding season, right? And you're right, we are a little crazy and it is why we do what we do with the people we do it with. 

In June we had the opportunity to collaborate with a team of professionals that we had been eager to work with outside of a real wedding for quite some time. It was my inspiration to design with the countryside as our backdrop and almost a Tuscan feel to the overall palette and I am extremely proud of the product we produced. 

What inspired this entire design was the base linen I selected from La Tavola. It is a color I had pondered and it resonated with me because it can lend itself to both a summer or fall feel and I truly loved the versatility of that concept, being we're in the thick of summer, but fall is quickly approaching. 

My personal style is simple yet tasteful. You won't find me cluttering tables (unless I am under strict guidance from a client!) and I believe in small details with a large impact.

I hope you enjoy these images as much as we do and I can't thank this team enough for their unbelievable work and commitment!




Photography by Carlos Hernandez

Kelsey's Interview with Delish

Opinions. It's true, I have a a few of them, but don't we all?

I had the opportunity to chat with Delish as they really wanted to dig deep into my thoughts and feelings on signature cocktails, which as we all know has become quite the sensation over the last few years- similar to the donut wall, am I right?

The interview is strictly opinion based and it's just one opinion- mine, but what I do hope is that it makes you think, makes you laugh and you walk away really deciding what's important to you and your fiancé as you plan such an intimate time in your lives. It's a day you are meant to be celebrated and my hope is that your celebration remains reflective of who you are and what is most important to you. I wouldn't be an asset to your team if I didn't make you think and that's what I intend to you. 

Thank you for reading. Your love and support is far greater than you know. Enjoy!




Images are the property of Pinterest and not that of Vanity Affair Events. 

Coastal Styled Shoot

If you’ve been following our Instagram, you may have seen a few highlights from a recent styled shoot we collaborated on at the Oregon Coast. What was this shoot inspired by you ask? The inspiration behind this shoot began with a single chair from Vintage meets Modern, as they reminded Danielle of chairs often seen in bistros on the French Riviera.

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When asking Danielle what her overall vision was for this shoot she replied with the words of not wanting it to feel like the Oregon Coast, but rather an intimate elopement or wedding that could be duplicated on any coast. Pulling from the natural color palette of the beach, not limited to, the sand, beach wood, rocks and salt water. Florals were envisioned to be the only aspect of the table provided an actual pop of color, so they would really feel elevated through the lens of the camera. For the tablescape, modern and minimalist was the overall feel we were aiming for while still achieving an upscale appearance (that's our style!). We brought in handmade ceramic plates, matching La Tavola table linen with a napkin and matte silverware to complete the look. Pulling more modern vibes through in our cake by making it square as opposed to round, for a juxtaposition of the dinnerware.

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The Coast can be risky, especially during the early Spring months with concerns of overcast weather. To our dismay, the day cleared up and graced us with the right amount of sunlight and clouds allowing us to get the perfect daytime and golden hour photos. The sand dunes absorbed the light as the ocean water glistened. I see why they call it the magic hour. See for yourself in grid below or in our Styled Shoots tab.

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Planning + Design: Vanity Affair Events
Photography: Jenny Losee
Hair: Swept Away Wedding Hair Design
Makeup: Whitney Stassi Artistry
Florals: Ponderosa & Thyme
Stationery: Briar and Brambles Paper Co.
Cake: Dream Cakes PDX

Rentals: Vintage Meets Modern
Rentals: Wolf Ceramics
Linens: La Tavola
Dress: Carol Hannah Bridal
Hair Accessories/Veil: Twigs & Honey
Groom's attire: The Black Tux
Rings + Jewelry: Alchemy Jeweler

Investing in Design

Investing in specialty rentals allows you to create a customized experience you and your guests will never forget.

We have compiled a bulleted list on the areas Planner's believe rentals can help make a difference; here is why.

With specialty rental companies across the board providing unique and statement pieces it is easy to get lost in dreaming up your day. Let’s see if we can pinpoint where rentals can benefit you most!

·      Chairs. In 8 out of 10 cases, chairs that are used for the ceremony seating will also be used for your reception. If you are having a rooftop ceremony, you may opt out of using the venues in house tin folding chairs. In this case, you may splurge for the clear acrylic chairs, which will carry through a light and airy presence to go hand in hand with your open sky concept and blend into your manicured reception.

·      Cocktail hour. This is where we tend to see our couples incorporate twists of personal style and creativity without feeling as if they are compromising the overall feel of their ceremony and reception. Lounge areas have really taken cocktail hours to all new heights. A romantic loveseat here, a custom bar set-up there.

·      Linens. Tablecloths and napkins are perfect focal point to bring in colors or textures. Solids can be accompanied by a bold pattern or complementary material. Take velvet for example, yes velvet; it is an effortless way to give your table the elevated touch you might be looking for.

·      Tableware.  From brushed metallic to matte silverware in an array of styles, you can bring a table to life with the best fork and knife combo that ever so beautify contributes to the perfect ceramic plate or classic set of glassware.

·      Dessert. You can not go wrong with a well-designed cake table. We are determined to get back to the simplicity of cakes. Essential elements to remember when designing your cake table can be as straightforward as a draped table runner with a classic cake stand surrounded by votives.

As you round out your list of rental needs, take a dive into what it is that you want to highlight on your big day and don't hesitate to follow our own work and daily inspiration on Pinterest



Photography by Maria Lamb and (2) lounge seating images courtesy of Pinterest. 

Hello Pinterest, We Meet Again

It’s true. We recently received one of the biggest wake-up calls, thanks to the inspiring woman herself, Jenna Kutcher, who reminded us of the power of Pinterest and the impact it has on our lives. What we didn’t realize, is the impact it was having on our brand and we dedicated nearly two long weeks to a complete overhaul, which we are so excited to share with you here.


“In all, Pinners save nearly 900 million Pins about weddings and conduct 378 million wedding-related searches every single year.” – Pinterest with Deep Focus, 2016. I read that statistic more times than you even want to know, but the reality was we were missing out on being included in the 378 million wedding-related searches and we’re back for revenge with beautiful content, inspiration and much of our own work that we are so proud to contribute to our industry and the world of visual stimulation.

Knowing how influential images can be during this process, we curated our page to give our audience a glimpse of who we are at Vanity Affair Events.


Join us on our social media journey because we promise it is a journey you won’t want to miss!



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Sikh Wedding on Green Wedding Shoes

Last July was an experience I will never forget. When I met Karta Purkh and Siri Adi nearly nine months prior, I was eager at the opportunity to plan and design a Sikh wedding as I had never personally done so before. There was so much to learn, so much to embrace and these two guided me along a journey that I couldn’t have ever imagined. It was as if we taught each other about our worlds and collaborated to create what you see here.

From the beginning it was described as a weekend, rather than a day, where their friends and family would travel from all over the world to be in Oregon to celebrate their union, but also a tribute to those who surround them and in return, it was a celebration for all. In addition, Karta Purkh, a talented designer, curated and executed all of her own stationery you'll see featured throughout. 

A beautiful ceremony, where guests relaxed on vibrant rugs and pillows, removed their shoes upon entering out of respect and where live music filled the air to create a calm, welcoming environment as people would come and go over a 90 minute period. Breathtaking to say the least, especially if you’ve never witnessed a Sikh ceremony.

Between morning ceremony and evening reception, guests enjoyed the afternoon at the pool, had a picnic in our Weekend Lounge and enjoyed everything the Pacific Northwest is while both Karta Purkh and Siri Adi had a wardrobe change from day to night. 

The evening graced us with an amazing family style dinner, speeches that left goosebumps and a dance party that would have never ended if given the choice. 



A Modern Couple's Guide to Valentine's Day

You most likely belong to one of two groups when it comes to Valentine’s Day. You’re either the passionate person who can’t stand the idea of a commercialized love holiday – you strongly believe we should show love and affection all year round (and Hallmark won’t be taking your money). Or you’re obsessed with the idea of a holiday that celebrates one of the greatest feelings ­– love. Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle, but we certainly all lean one way or the other.

Feelings aside, the red metallic balloons will appear, the conversation hearts will be near every check-out stand, and February 14th will show up no matter what. Being in the wedding industry, we also love love. We’re focused and driven on making your day run as smooth as possible, but we have to admit seeing a first look or hearing heartfelt vows makes us a little emotional.

We know too, that love continues after the celebrations, parties, and honeymoons. So in hopes of helping you strengthen your bond and kick butt at life as a newlywed couple, we’ve compiled some ideas for dates and gifts that will make Valentine’s Day feel a bit more personalized and special.

Date Ideas

Going out to eat might seem like a no brainer for cupid’s holiday, but oftentimes this can be more stressful than fun.  You can make reservations in advance, but many restaurants will have fixed price menus. Not to mention, the setting won’t feel as intimate with couples crowding into tables next to you. Portland-based couples should take a trip to Powell’s to pick out a new recipe book. Cook a meal together at home and then focus on something else fun for the night. If you’ve got a competitive edge, you should each make a dish and taste test to determine the winner.

If you decide to go out, revamp dinner and a movie with dinner and a play or concert. Rather than watching A-listers on the silver screen, you can enjoy local talent at many of Portland’s main stages. Everything from comedy shows poking fun at the holiday to sexy vaudeville shows are available in Portland this year. You can find an event that fits you best on the Portland Mercury’s calendar.

If the waterfront is calling your name, but it’s too chilly for a stroll, the Portland Spirit is hosting a Valentine’s Day cruise. Your ticket price includes a four course meal, a live band, and views of the city skyline and lights that you can’t get from anywhere else. 

For something a little different this year, take a brewery tour with Brewvana on the 14th. You can purchase tickets on their website and join the group for a slight buzz from all the beer (and love). Don’t worry about finding dinner, there will be food pairings, dinner, and dessert included. 

For you diehard rip city fans, the Blazers will be playing Golden state Valentine’s Day night. Grab your partner and get ready to go hoarse from cheering. Afterwards, sneak off to Salt & Straw to taste their February flavors–you know waiting in this line is worth it. Feeling a bit sneaky, but not too sneaky? Head up to Council Crest to get a chilly viewing of the stars that night and a breathtaking view of the city. (Careful, you’re there past curfew).


Gift Ideas

For Her

This year, set down the box of chocolates and pick out something that she’ll love beyond Valentine’s Day. We’re never one to turn away a treat, but a thoughtful gift makes her feel the time and effort you put into thinking about her. Here’s a few ideas.

Candles – Both Voluspa and Nest candles are fan favorites, and there is definitely a scent for every person. Whether she prefers tobacco and musk or citrus and coconut, a candle will make her place smell great and feel cozy.

Lingerie – This gift is a win-win for both of you. You’ll get to appreciate how amazing she looks in it, and she’ll feel confident and stunning. You know her well, so make sure you don’t buy a red hot lacy piece if she’s more fond of black satin garments. Hanky Panky sells a set of three lace panties in a heart-shaped box, and that certainly beats predictable heart chocolates. 

Leather bag – A new bag will always come in handy, and a high quality leather one will last for years. She’ll think of you every time she uses it and will be happy to receive a present that’s both stylish and useful. Madewell and Frye have selections that are perfect for the PNW vibe but transition well for any occasion no matter where she goes. 

Perfume – Redefining your look with a new scent can be exciting. With a new scent she can decide which fits her best each day. There’s also something so chic about a stylish glass bottle that can serve as a piece of decor for her dresser or nightstand. A spray from Jo Malone or Le Labo Santal 33 are luxe little splurges that she’ll adore. 

Sweater – She can never have too many sweaters, especially during the rainy season. A soft cozy one for lounging around the house is always a good idea or a chunky knit piece she can throw on before heading out the door will no doubt be a closet essential for her. 

For Him

While we can’t assume all couples are the same, men can typically be a bit more relaxed about what they like. While this makes shopping easier, it can also be frustrating when trying to find something that will really make him feel special. You love him a lot, so we have you covered with gifts that surpass chocolates and wine.

Sweatshirt – This may be the biggest wardrobe staple for a lot of men, but a sweatshirt that he can cozy up in at home or wear out to the bar is the perfect combination. Patagonia and True Grit both have styles that are streetwear savvy and ready for football Sunday at home. 

Cologne – A signature scent is something he can be remembered by when he’s on a trip or traveling for business. It’s a small, but opulent gesture for someone you care about. Le Labo Santal 33 makes scents for both women and men or you can stick with classics from Dolce & Gabbana and Calvin Klein. 

Craft Beer Tasting Kit – One of the best things about being in Portland, or on the west coast in general, is the selection of beers and spirits. You can purchase him a tasting kit so he can taste test new microbrews and IPAs. Or create your own by stopping at different breweries to fashion a DIY version that you can customize to his taste preferences. 

Boxers – Not just any pack, but gift him with a pair of comfy, cloud-like ones. Calvin Klein makes them out of micromodal material, which feels silky smooth and soft to the touch. He’ll look super handsome, and he’ll never want another type of underwear in his drawer after getting these. 

Laptop Case – Useful and stylish, he’ll appreciate having something that keeps his files safe. He won’t have to slip his computer into his bag and worry about damage, especially with a sturdy leather sleeve. Nordstrom, Amazon, and Madewell all have cases fit for your hard working guy.

With love,



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